Dr. Kizzie Shako’s solid stance and crisp voice struck as she delivered a sound address of her day to day experiences as a forensic surgeon at the Ministry of Health. This was the stuff of her dreams. A reality to the kind of life she had hoped to live since she was seven. Her eloquence and smooth connection with the audience made the topic of discussion bearable, being that child abuse is not a fancy subject. But Dr. Kizzie Shako did it exquisitely, chuckling humorously if only to loosen us from the biting tension brought about by watching the scarred backs of abused children flipping on the projector screen.
Dr. Kizzie Shako’s graceful mother watched as she reminded us that children are precious; just how much we ought to treasure and honour their innocence. The thirty slides she had prepared were a minute collection of the many untold stories of her patients whose remarkable ordeals chill the soul. And according to her statistics, mothers are the majority perpetrators of child abuse. This was a finding solely depicted from her work experience, physical contact with the victims who have passed through her hands.
The eye opening evening had heavy air. It was difficult to take in all that information in one instance, especially for persons who had never been in close contact with such stories. But the truth is children are suffering all around us regardless of social class. And some of them were the grown-ups in the audience, a good number of whom had never told anyone about the places they’re from and the things they have seen.
So important was this conversation to poet Amos Thuo alias MOSAM, that he travelled all the way from Nakuru just to perform in this session. Wahenga Wenyeji BAND’s four year old Chris, a promising poet, made sure each person who wasn’t in that hall regretted not attending.
By the time Eric Onyango, the Program Co-ordinator, was closing with his emotional account on what he went through in his father’s hands at 11, the die was cast. It was time to speak up. And that is exactly what Dr. Kizzie Shako is trying to communicate in her blog #VunjaKimya (Break The Silence), writing to voice out the dynamics and driving forces behind intimate partner violence, sexual violence and child abuse. The blog is also intended to shed light on various sections of Kenyan law, children’s rights, documentation processes, as well as information for medical personnel that are relevant to the management of different forms of violence.
“One thing that stuck in my heart after listening to Dr. Kizzie Shako speaking, was her saying: “…and this is inflicted by the child’s mother…”, “…and this one’s mother burnt her…” “Mother… Mother… Mother…” It broke my heart that most of those cases were caused by the very women who bore them life. Everyone expects a mother to just love her child unconditionally so why is it that they can turn on the kids like that…?” – Cynthia Waka, (Blogger at 90 SHADES OF ME)
“Eric inspired me to have courage to share my scars to encourage other walking scars and those with fresh wounds. From Dr. Kizzie Shako, I learnt the various forms of child abuse and the uses of a P3 form plus from the story of how she became the first Kenyan female Police surgeon, how perseverance, consistency and grit can work wonders in life. Also learnt the work of a police surgeon, where she is located and how essential she is to our society. I think the government should employ more of them.’’ – Amos ‘Mosam’ Thuo, (Poet from Nakuru)
If no one has ever been sorry for all the abuse you have been through, we are. We want to help you get the anger out. Speak up. Talk to us.
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