Everyone has his or her own narrative on relationships and expectations. These expectations are based on fantasies, beliefs, experiences, and what they have seen around. These expectations are created as relationships are developed. People find themselves in relationships wherever they are in schools, churches, workplaces, and at home. It is therefore nothing new or no news at all to hear about relationships on campus.
Are you…single? Taken? In love with food? Are you free next Saturday to go on a coffee date?
5 Signs to Leave a Relationship
Are you constantly unhappy? Do you find that you two are traveling and heading towards different paths? Does your partner show a lack of support, or some form of emotional, physical, sexual, financial, etc. abuse?
A lack of trust can also mean it’s time to leave. It’s important, to be honest with ourselves in times like these, and face a moment of clarity. Do you recognize any of these signs? Or are you not even in a relationship? No worries – let us know in the comments down below!Psych2Go
On-campus, individuals get to know themselves and some realize that they feel the same way towards each other. When two people realize they have feelings for each other, it becomes advisable to enter a relationship where commitment and loyalty are expected from each other. When it comes to a relationship, it may seem like love is the answer to all problems associated with it. After all, there have been instances where some married couples actually met while on campus. But then even though relationships are meant to have their ups and downs, it is necessary to be in a healthy one. Therefore, despite the feelings one may have for the other, it is better to avoid dead-end relationships.
A dead-end relationship is a relationship that cannot move forward, a relationship where you do not see a future or are making progress with your partner. According to Mark B. Borg, Jr, Ph. D, a clinical psychologist and author of Relationship Sanity, “A dead-end relationship is one where those within it are interacting with each other in ways that inadvertently protect them from the reasons for which we form romantic relationships in the first place”. These reasons are intimacy, empathy, emotional investment, and vulnerability. There are some signs that show itself should one find him or herself in a dead-end relationship. In a dead-end relationship, there is unhappiness, boredom, or no connection with your partner, wanting to spend more time with others rather than your partner, the feeling that the relationship is off, and most importantly, you not being able to be yourself.
Dating Is Dead | Kevin Carr | TEDxWilmingtonSalon
Even with today’s advancements and unlimited opportunities, we still can’t escape our desire for companionship. Kevin Carr is an accomplished author, speaker, and TV Host/Personality. With over a decade of experience, his perspective on dating offers a practical road-map to help navigate being single while learning to create the relationship you desire.
Whether addressing millennials, college students, or a group of professionals seeking a meaningful relationship amidst their busy careers, Kevin delivers a message that provides direction and promotes honest dialogue. His unique perspective and engaging delivery have made him a sought-after speaker across the country including appearances on ABC, BET, CBS, FOX, and TBN.
As a contributor, his work has also been featured in Essence, HelloBeautiful.com, and The Huffington Post. In his first book, “If All Men Are Dogs, Then Women You Hold the Leash,” he shows women how to tap into their personal power to control the pace and direction of their relationships.TEDx Talks
Accepting that one is in a dead-end relationship is certainly a large pill to swallow. However, should one find him or herself in one, it is very advisable and healthy to end it. Ending a relationship on campus is a difficult decision to make, but it is better to be done earlier than later.
Breaking off a relationship immediately you see signs that point out that it is a dead-end relationship prevents emotional ties from getting to a higher peak and making it too hard to get out of it. Even though both partners would not want to hurt each other, still being in a dead-end relationship affects one’s mental and emotional well-being.
Prevention, they say, is better than cure. Most times before entering into a relationship, there are some signs that show that will tell you the sort of relationship you are settling into. Before getting into a relationship, some time should be taken to know oneself and the purpose of dating.
Dead-End Relationships | Jerry Springer
You should also know what you want and what you expect from the relationship, try as much as possible to resist unnecessary pressure from friends and even family asking you to go for someone they think is right for you, being able to say no to someone you have no feelings for, ask yourself if you are ready for a relationship and most importantly, study the person. Looking out for these signs and doing these helps you avoid the stress of getting into a dead-end relationship.
Relationships are not as rosy or some sort of fairytales as shown in movies or read in novels. Even though there are dead-end relationships, there are healthy relationships also. The fact that dead-end relationships exist does not mean that one should not enter into a relationship.
Should one have feelings for another and feels that it is right to enter into a relationship, he or she should go for it. Also, should you find yourself in a dead-end relationship, do not hesitate to end it. After all, had I known, is always at last. See original post on hypercitigh.com by Christabel Adjei Mensah.