- How did you manage the pain of infant loss?
- October 15 is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day
- Still-A-Mum will have a tree planting exercise in Karura Forest for people who have lost children
When a child loses their parent, they are called an orphan. When a spouse loses their partner, they are called a widow or widower. When parents lose their child, there isn’t a word to describe them. Infant loss is devastating.
The agony of a miscarriage, an ectopic pregnancy, a still birth or demise of an infant, is devastating to mothers and would be mothers. The process of letting go sometimes becomes a lifetime battle peculiarized by unending bitterness and depression. Families break because of myths, religious and cultural beliefs brought about by infant loss. But maybe society would be better if people learned openness to understand each other more, as in the case of women who lost their children to circumstances beyond their control.
Often, men and women who have lost children do not know how to go about their pain. The trauma that comes with explaining to loved ones and society weighs people down.
“We do not have control over many things in life and death but we do have control over the meaning we give it.”
― Nathalie Himmelrich
Are we taught to deal with loss? What happens to parents after the community helps you to mourn your child? Are there support systems to help them go through their bereavement? Too many families grieve in silence.
Wanjiru Kihusa is one such woman offering help to many of these parents. She runs Still A Mum, a charity that supports women and families dealing with miscarriages, stillbirth and infant loss. They work to improve the care bereaved parents receive as well as create public awareness on child loss.
Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day (October 15) is a day of remembrance for pregnancy loss and infant death, which includes, but is not limited to, miscarriage, stillbirth, and the death of a newborn.
We host Still A Mum, who shall be coming with gynaecologist, Dr. Jane Wakahe and counsellor, Perpetual Njuguna, to help us understand how to go about child loss.
The music and poetry shall aid us process information as we reflect on the involving conversation that is to go down on this evening.
We hope to see you and your loved ones come start the journey of your healing.