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Arbitrary to logic, unique to you.
I strongly believe that we as the current generation of men are the only ones with the ability to start this rolling ball of change. Our fathers won’t do shit to that effect, we can say that for a fact. We need to open up ourselves and leave ourselves vulnerable to our nuclear family or close circle of male friends. We need to show them that a man can still be a man despite asking for help from a fellow man. We need to instill this into our kids as well and the best way to do it is through our example as their parents.
Women for the most part talk and have talked for ages it has become labelled as woman nature to talk.
This is very true in most places.
Depression and anxiety have always existed. We don’t mostly know about it for a number of reasons. One, it wasn’t as rampant in Africa in the olden days. Two, it wasn’t defined as depression or anxiety in most parts back then. Three, it wasn’t talked about because of being undefined and because of the lack of knowledge; so we don’t get to hear any stories from then. Four, I would imagine those who knew what these things were wouldn’t speak up because some things like these would most likely have been considered a curse or a white man’s things (as was cancer for a really long time).
To sum it up, depression could be likened to cancer in the sense that when we had healthy lifestyles and a non polluted world not many suffered from it. The world has changed now and so has what is expected of us. The stresses have piled up a lot more and we now, as a society, have a lot more to be anxious about and due to that end up in a deep sunken depression.
Yes, we now have started talking about it more on broader platforms and all but still have four key factors hindering the progress of these efforts. One, religions that believe you can pray away depression cause myriads not to speak up because they don’t want to be labelled “wana mapepo ya shetani.” Two, most males are still holding strong the belief that their masculinity solely depends on their ability to deal with everything on their own. Three, most parents do not tell their kids shit about depression, anxiety or anything mental health; they just don’t have those discussions because “hatuna history ya depression kwetu, hizi ni shida za watu wana pesa.” Lastly, our mental health medical system is still in the ’90s.
Noted my sir.
Well this is commendable since it’s a habit you currently uphold and derive benefit and pleasure from.
First off, you’re welcome. Second, I really like the phrase “it is okay not to be okay.” Once we go past that point, we’ve beaten the stigma and are more open to talk about what we’re going through without the thought of having your vulnerability exploited.
Third, stay peeled for the next part, I bet you’d like it.
Is this something you currently practice or will you practice only because you’re on the verge of your demise?
Would you tell them this is your last conversation?
This is true to the core. There’s also the fact that people, even those suffering from it, are ignorant and write it off as stress. Ignorance plagues a majority of the population. The remainder of the population is either judged for being that way as though it’s a choice or scolded for expressing “theirselves.” Most people don’t want to be associated by a “crazy” person so automatically the afflicted won’t speak up for fear of losing family and friends. It’s a fucked up cycle.