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Precious Wamau
How can one person who is already dying still want to hold on to wealth that is too much for even their children’s children? There must be a serious mental issue. We need to study it because prison will not work.
Precious Wamau
You can not love the same person the same way again but you can love someone else even more deeper.
Precious Wamau
Hehe, is it normal that this is the first time I have heard the word Gaslighting ever! I need new friends because the ones I have are not updating their vocabulary… Anyway, I did a small research on the word and came across it’s interesting origin story.
Apparently, the word Gaslighting was first used in a 1938 stage play and later a 1940 movie called Gas Light. It is the story of a man who wanted to drive his wife crazy by dimming the gas-powered lights in their home and pretending that they are okay when the wife asks.
I actually thought of watching Gas Light the movie after finding a working link online. It seems like a good watch and I may just watch it now to know how it all went for the Gaslighted wife…
Besides that, I looked up ways to know if you are being Gaslighted and found some interesting examples. For instance, when someone says things like: “Why are you making things up?!” “You are so jealous!” “Are you sure? You tend to have a bad memory.” “It’s all in your head.”
The aim of Gaslighting is to demean the victim and make them question their own feelings, instincts, sanity. What makes it worse is the fact that it mostly comes from people who are close to you like a lover or someone in authority like a teacher. And because you love or respect them, you tend to believe what they say and thus think you are the one on the wrong. I think this is should be classified as emotional abuse and violence.
Here is a link to the Full Movie: Gas Light 1940 Movie on YouTube
Precious Wamau
A good example is Death at the Well, a translation of the well-known Kiswahili play Kifo Kisimani. The play is set in Butangi, an imaginary African society led by Bokono and characterised by poor political leadership, violation of human rights, political patronage, corruption and looting of public resources.
A young man, Mwelusi, (easily Brian Bira) decides to change all that. His mission, however, proves to be a tall order Indeed, for his patriotism, he pays the price with his life. But the fire he has awakened in the people is not extinguishable. Led by Atega, a young woman and Mwelusi’s friend and comrade, the people take carry on with the struggle. And, to Bokono’s and his chief sycophants’ utter shock and chagrin, the old order is brought to its knees.
Precious Wamau
African Men are affected most by depression and suicide because they think that discussing their feelings isn’t very macho, but whether one is aware of it or not, you’re already communicating your feelings to those around you; you’re just not using words.
If you’re short-tempered, drinking more than usual, or punching holes in the wall, those closest to you will know something’s wrong. Choosing to talk about what you’re going through, instead, can actually help you feel better.