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visual artist | writer | filmmaker
The world is changing. The world is in constant flux.
I don’t know how it is in your country but I guess it is the same everywhere. We are in the information age. Information velocity is increasing at an increasing rate (this post is itself testimony to this – 20 years ago I would not have been able to interact with a person in West Africa from my laptop – firstly because I wouldn’t have a laptop, secondly because of terrible internet speeds).
I’d say, build your own experience – don’t wait to be hired to do this. Brand yourself as an individual and sell your skills as you (as you garner more skills). Eventually those who would want to employ someone would come looking for you, a time at which you will have bargaining power.
The days of sitting behind a PC and sending out numerous job applications are long gone. That is now tantamount to shooting in the dark and hoping to hit the target. Social capital is the answer & networking is its fuel. Hack this.
If you do not like how the table is laid, turn the table.
All the best!
I may sound like a very cold person but this is my reality – I have 0 tolerance for betrayal. This does not mean I hold a grudge, oh no, disloyal people don’t deserve that space & time. It simply means I act swiftly & decisively on those who harm me or others in order to prevent a repeat. This is very important.
Do not confuse this with ‘revenge’ – no. Revenge is retributive and out of spite with no pragmatic purpose. What I speak of here is more teleological and effective – learning from your botched interaction and avoiding a repeat occurrence the same way you’d say, not lend a friend money because he did not pay back the last time you did – here there is no grudge nor is there retribution, it’s pure logic. You learned that he is incapable of handling money and therefore made a decision to avoid a repeat case. That’s all.
You have to realise something, in this world there are people who are totally ruthless and will not hesitate to take advantage of your kindness to their benefit.
From next year I won’t be in the youth bracket anymore but I will say, in my short life thus far, I have encountered some of the most devious individuals. And the interesting thing is, there are still more devious & colder people I am yet to interact with. That is life. Be prepared.
PS: Do not lose a wink of sleep over the cold & ruthless instead learn to survive.
I say ‘sexual benefits’ already says a lot about what most people think of sex …
For me sex is not a benefit. Sex is sex. A friendship/relationship of whatever sort is defined by the 2 people in it and it does not become lesser/greater because of sex/lack thereof.
Why most relationships collapse is because most people think sex is ‘an offer’ you give the other person (esp. women) & ‘a gift/reward/conquest’ you get (esp. men).
In my view, sex is should be a mutual communion between whoever engages in it and this goes beyond the physical, emotional & psychological – it is (should be) an essential (pertaining to ‘essence’/soul) climax of expression of love between 2 human beings. Anything short of this is but a cheap transient lustful anticlimax rife for failure as are most relationships today.
I have experienced violence both publicly and domestically. I believe the criminal justice system, though very wanting in many ways, is NOT the solution. Also, the judiciary’s job is to interpret the law not enforce it … further more, the executives job is to enforce the law created by the legislature – again, no solutions from these institutions. The approach has to be ‘reparative’ not ‘retributive’. We [Kenya] are currently using the latter approach.
A solution would be to deal with the problem before it happens (prophylactic) until it eventually stops happening.
What I discovered is that violence is not inherent in individuals unless of course they suffer congenitally/physiologically from mental illness that can be manifested by acts of aggression. Most often the violent nature in persons is a consequence of socialisation and environment i.e. those brought up in households with violence are likely to be violent. HOWEVER, this is not a direct correlation and, in fact, many people who grow up in violent homes DO NOT become violent themselves.
In short, violent behaviour as characterised by individuals is a complex matter with many contributing factors so, to deal with it, we must be cognizant to these multiple factors. Drug use/abuse also contributes to violent behaviour in some individuals as much as self-esteem issues may lead to the same (e.g. a person who feels that the only way they can express themselves is via aggression).
I also learned, through personal experience, that violence/abusive behaviour is a vicious cycle if left untreated. This inspired my short film KALEIDOSCOPE (2016) which is themed on GBV along with mental illness as a sub-theme. Do watch it via below link: –
The middle class is a varied class with peculiar behaviour … But today let me pick the middle class age bracket of 21 – 28 years (millennials) as an example (& not all of course, but a disproportionate segment that I have personally either observed or interacted with – maybe someone else has had a different experience): –
– talented and exposed (to information) as they may be they are an entitled class, i.e. they strongly feel the world/people owes them in so many ways (success); they suffer from chronic impatience and want everything to happen instantly
– they have a sense of narcissism cloaked as ‘personal philosophy’ and need constant recognition to exaggerate their accomplishments (suffer from severe low self-esteem) i.e. that’s why they often stay online seeking validity from the world with the internet as a buffer – always commenting & having an opinion about everything (& nothing?)
– they are ‘spoiled brats’ in the sense that they do not feel they need to give anything but rather it is always what they can get …
I fear for this generation because in 15 – 20 years time they will be fully mature adults but as such a demographic without a real sense of direction. [Sadly] this demographic is also the most prone to drug abuse, suicide and mental illness.
But the elections are also marred with corruption and culture of prejudice …
What I mean is, few people (like you) vote using sheer merit as a measure of leadership. Most do so on tribal lines and (mostly) ‘money-factor’.
A few families in this country hold the economy at ransom and likewise the same families control political patronage – in short, the people who can be, say, president, are predetermined long before an election.
In my view, the beginning of the ‘revolution’ would mean a dismantling of this system of patronage. How? I don’t have a silver-bullet, but I do believe grassroots mobilisation (which should have began yesterday) could be a start, i.e. where we change attitudes gradually …