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Most of us learn about sex from porn and exaggerated stories from friends. Most of this information is inaccurate and misleading. Would you pay for a sex education course? Would you go with your partner or alone? How much would ...Read more
You probably divorced because the person didn’t treat you right, would you risk trying the same relationship once again?
If you’ve been through this situation and you’ve been hurt because you’ve read her flirtatious chats with other guy/ guys, let’s add, at the middle of the night, and let’s also add, she’s lied to you that she’s slept at ...Read more
The rise in Divorce in Africa: What do you think could be the cause of the rise in divorce in Africa?
Rash to get married for the wrong reasons. Also the expectations are sometimes too high that when you get disappointed by something you don’t expect it puts you in a low place in your life.
Based on my little experience here are some top 10 red flags to look for if you are indeed looking to share a healthy relationship with someone you love (applies to both men & women) – please do share yours ...Read more
I agree with you so much. I laughed at Number 8 because I don’t take crap from people especially waiters. I wouldn’t call myself disrespectful, but if I (or my date) orders coffee and the waitress brings a virgin mojito, I am going to be trouble. First to the waiter or waitress, then to my man for not saying something. Haha. I wouldn’t want to date someone who just gets walked over and stays silent in the name of being kind. But I love the rest of your list already.
To me marriage is a Union but looking at the trend of marriages today it a culture, why because when u ask me? I will say that’s what peoples do.
I believe that’s not so much a culture as it is a trend. Maybe we need to define what culture is to us first.
Are we, for example, post-religion (or post-marriage, etc.)? I ask this question because of: – – rising cases of anomie – rising cases of divorce – rising cases of deviant/self-destructive/maladaptive behaviour esp. among the youth Taking religion for example – it is ...Read more
Great question! I believe we are gradually turning into an era where the people (mostly women) who were upholding marriage are now conscious and self-reliant. Considering that the institution of marriage was solely meant to be controlled by men and they benefit more from the relationship. So maybe we are approaching post-ignorant society, where women are no longer accepting the bad culture that has made them submissive to men in marriages where it isn’t companionship for them. So the problem is not as a result of the institutionalization of marriage by religion- because as the case may be the guidelines of marriage which are being followed by society are very little from the teachings of the religion but culture- the problem is that people are not accepting the toxic conditions that they used to live with, and this is what is affecting the way we live now.
Also, I think mother-daughter/son or father-son/daughter are institutionalized relationships as well. This can be backed by a child’s birth certificate, it is a signed relationship. Also, brother-sister relationships are signed when they are your next of kins, that’s to an extent an institutionalized relationship.
These days it has become so hard to trust our partners. One day they tell you “He is just a friend” Next day they go partying together. The other day you get them in the act. Is it possible for ...Read more
I say ‘sexual benefits’ already says a lot about what most people think of sex …
For me sex is not a benefit. Sex is sex. A friendship/relationship of whatever sort is defined by the 2 people in it and it does not become lesser/greater because of sex/lack thereof.
Why most relationships collapse is because most people think sex is ‘an offer’ you give the other person (esp. women) & ‘a gift/reward/conquest’ you get (esp. men).
In my view, sex is should be a mutual communion between whoever engages in it and this goes beyond the physical, emotional & psychological – it is (should be) an essential (pertaining to ‘essence’/soul) climax of expression of love between 2 human beings. Anything short of this is but a cheap transient lustful anticlimax rife for failure as are most relationships today.
Are you sure the one you are dating is dating you? Or are you sure the one you are in a relationship with feels the same about you?
Every day, you have the opportunity to make your community a little bit better, trusting that the sum of all these tiny gains will add up to meaningful change. Here comes my question: When was the last time you helped someone ...Read more
A few days ago, I helped a friend in building their career. I was happy that I impacted someone’s life.
I think this is something we all need to take up as a habit. It doesn’t necessarily have to be in terms of finances. Sometimes the words you speak makes more impact than anything else. Of course, if it’s a monetary issue and we can help, let us.
Manser Thelua
Sex Education is important but I wouldn’t pay for an extra course. I would rather get it for free in books and youtube videos. I also love trying out and experimenting with new things with my partner. What is the joy of knowing it all? Make it an adventure.