Report: Sex In The City (Nairobi) with Robert Burale
• Is masturbation wrong?
• Robert Burale: Marriage, Sex , Success…
• What’s the relationship between love and sex?
India played a significant role in the history of sex. From writing one of the first literature that treated sexual intercourse as a science to in modern times being the origin of the philosophical focus of new-age groups’ attitudes on sex. It may be argued that India pioneered the use of sexual education through art and literature.
Most noteworthy, as in many societies, there was a difference in sexual practices in India between common people and powerful rulers, with people in power often indulging in hedonistic lifestyles that were not representative of common moral attitudes. Sex is the one mystery that turns our minds on. It gets us talking. It gets us uncomfortable. It gets us excited.
What do Adolescents know about Sex?:
Seems like many adolescents begin experimenting with their bodies because their sexual energies give them a rough time. A confusing world, scarce information – much of it inaccurate, a hostile environment where sex is abused and fear are some of the issues they grapple with. By the time they get to their early twenties, most of these youth, especially in urban places, have been exposed to a despairing view of sex that often leave them with very many misconceptions.
While Congolese maestro, Koffi Olomide was in the headlines for all the wrong reasons, Robert Burale was charging an enthusiastic crowd at Fatuma’s Voice. He gave us his shot. The body is a canvas. Our sexual energies are sacred if only we knew how deeply spiritual sex is.
What about Masturbation?
Is masturbation right or wrong? Is it as healthy as some people say or is it caused by an inner lust that we never talk about? Poet Murathe Ngugi was in the audience. He asked whether anyone would be okay with advising their children to masturbate. The hall went silent. But what is it about sex that makes us so jittery?
Robert Burale’s charisma drew us in. He narrated his tales, telling of the hell sex and gambling addiction took him to. The emptiness of losing his marriage that lasted for only a year and two days. He illuminated about the danger of having several sexual partners, the risk of exercising a careless sexual lifestyle.
“We waste time looking for the perfect lover, instead of creating the perfect love.”
― Tom Robbins
Is Sex the same as Love?
The Fatuma’s Voice audience listened. Youth rarely have these conversations even amongst themselves. Robert Burale further spoke about the importance of differentiating love and sex. How the two intermarry to create successful relationships. Perhaps our biggest confusion is finding the balance. As Tom Robbins put it; we make love be more about finding the perfect lover. How better would it be for us to create connection before and/or mere physical satisfaction?
Maybe we are not very patient people. Maybe patience is the one thing we need to learn most. We’d like to have more of these conversations at Fatuma’s Voice. Youth should engage themselves in more sex talk even just to understand their sexuality – the peculiarities and magic of finding oneself.
Nyota Ndogo wowed us with her latest song Subira Yangu. Robert Burale joined her for a dance on stage as everyone came to their feet. Nyota Ndogo later opened up, citing that sex is a natural desire. We need not shy from talking about it.
What aren’t Parents telling children about Sex?
It has always been a hard question. But as Nyota Ndogo shared, it’s better if parents prepare their children for the harsh world they are beginning to understand. To give them sex talks from the earliest age possible. Someone else might ask, what is the most suitable age to start this?
In the end, Eric Onyango closed with thoughtful words. Here they are if you missed them;
May you find your space in someone’s soul. A love shared is a love lived.
May you discover the temples and galaxies hidden inside your frame. May you meet the wells you thirst for as you rotate and revolve around this universe.
May your hands touch sacred places; with spirit, with emotion, with gut and pomp.
May you be touched so deeply till your being traverses time and distance, for you are eternal.
Do not waste your eternity in hands that don’t value you. Do not do anything that dehumanizes who you are meant to be, or the holiness of others.
May you find beauty – beauty that startles you.
May your mind cleanse its womb. May you always handle yourself as a miracle.
Above all, may you find God within you.
Be crystal clear.
SOCIAL MEDIA COMMENTARY:
“Theological dogma is just a poor excuse for burying your head in the sand on matters of ‘positive sexuality” – @IKaizoku_
“We should embrace sex since its not only pure but also a gift from God,but remember to use protection to avoid AIDS & STDs.” – Vitalis Omboyi, Student
“What’s wrong with discussing about sex? We are sexual beings.” – Mark Maish, Blogger in Nairobi
“A lot of women in their 30s might never bear children because they sold their ovaries to money through abortions in their youth.” – Moh Kimani, Media Consultant
“Would you advice your Child to have premarital sex?” – @L_elloh