Today I want to talk about Infertility. Getting a baby is a joint process, but by default, women are often blamed for infertility because of our patriarchal society. Even in traditional societies, healers and religious leaders focused on barren women and ignored men who may be the problem in the first place is the pain of infertility is to ever go away.
In the past, even doctors thought women’s hate of their husbands is what prevented conception. Another popular myth and misconception is that stress causes infertility, it is the other way around: infertility causes stress. When looking at healing from infertility, this should the first place to start.
Since reproductive diseases like endometriosis affect women more, the whole “trying period” which comes with painful and un-pleasurable baby making sex makes the situation worse. In most cases of infertility, the unsupportive husbands don’t want to adopt which can ruin marriage. Adoption is not a cure for infertility but it can reduce the heavy emotional pain of infertility, most women end up battling self-blame and faulting themselves.
Struggling with infertility has emotionally broken many people, especially women. Overcoming and coping with infertility sadness can be done by joining infertility support groups. Accepting and infertility and coping with it by thinking of alternatives like adoption is not easy and couples never consider this as an option.
The psychological and emotional response to infertility blame is usually stress or even depression and anxiety in women. This causes lasting trauma and sadness which is hard to cope with because infertility is still a taboo topic that comes with stigma.
Ironically, some of the women who’re thought to be barren often get children by due to all the stress, they end up with early or multiple miscarriages leading to infertility depression and post-traumatic stress disorder. The distress of men’s reactions to infertility is usually less than that of women because of how society falsely places he burden of reproduction on women.
Clomid, an oral medication that is used to treat infertility is a solution but mostly we just need to educate people and stop the infertility blame and stigma. Even when a women’s boyfriend or partner is infertile, before they look at boosting his low sperm count the woman is the first suspect, we need to stop this.
How else can we stop the gender discrimination against women and help infertile people come to terms with infertility?