Here’s what a close friend shared with me:
I have dated both Christian and Muslim women. I one conclusion I settled on is that it is a little harder to date African religious women because they tend to over-spiritualize everything. One of my x-girlfriends would quote a verse for everything I said. I felt like I was dating God or the bible because she didn’t even have her own words but picked up everything from the bible. At first, this was interesting but it soon became too much.
We couldn’t hug, kiss, or even hold hands for too long because it would lead us to sin. I understood her but sometimes I just wanted to be in the embrace of the woman who I love. What is the use of a relationship if you can not be close and comfortable with someone who is meant to be your best friend?
Anyway, I accepted it all and played her game. I soon realized that I was no longer sexually attracted to her. We spent lots of time together but she ended up being my bible-study partner. She was the perfect woman in every sense but since she lived in the spiritual world, I was walking on this world alone.
Soon, it got to the point where we were ready for marriage but there was no spark. I would look at other women and even think of her as a sister. We couldn’t do this. So, I looked for a stupid reason to act like a fool for her to break up with me. That’s how our relationship, which my friends had nicknamed fellowship ended. It is the only break up I celebrated and for the first time, I was happy to be single.